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13 yr old Bipolar son is driving me insane.. and my other two son's 10 and 2 1/2 yr old are scared of him.
My son is Bipolar and has ADHD..he is now currently Depressed and is out to driving everyone in the household crazy.. my two and half yr old is acting out like him.. 13 yr old cries/screams/throws punches in the walls/bangs arms,feet on anything to irritate and annoy with his noise...EVERYDAY!!! I feel like yess.. I am losing it ..my mind..my boyfriend..my 2 yr old healthy mind ..and my 10 yr old cries cause he wants his brother to stop and behave himself... I honestly don't want my son anylonger..I love him but the family counseling 1xwk and meds are not helping any.. I live in California, Can I Voluntary get Foster Placement for him?? what else can I do??
The thing I reccommend you do is speak to a relative or a friend about it and if they don't help go to your local doctors and ask for some tablets to calm distress (Ignore the guy above, you're probably a great parent and you do not need to go to hell)------(my 5 year old son has ADHD and he was driving me and my family mad, but i talked to my best friend and he is helping me through it)
Jack M
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Actually, the stat for bipolar suicide is more like 20%.
Start by getting him a different doctor. He needs meds for both illnesses, and there are ones that will mellow him out. Also, make sure you watch him swallow his meds and see that he swallows enough more to know he's not ditching his meds somewhere in his mouth. If it's a real issue, talk to his doc about the ones that can be administered every few weeks/month.
From what you describe, your son is not depressed, he's in what's called mixed mania. It is horrible. It is hell. It is worse than depression. It is the state that most bipolar suicides occur. Sorry, on this my compassion goes to your kid far more than to you. Don't talk foster care. Put him in patient. If he's that bad off, he needs the help that he clearly is not getting from his current doctor and apparently at home.
Instead of bashing you, I'll just suggest that you get your own counseling. Your son is dealing with sanity issues. Yours are about stress.
ETA: Friends of my parents had an ADHD son with bipolar type 1. It was tough, but they held it together. He made it thru college, is professionally employed, and just had his first kid. They are a close family. I have bipolar. I can't imagine the devastation of having the ppl I love the most abandoning me because I was in a horrible mixed mania I desparately wanted to stop but was powerless to do so. Abandoning your kid at 13 will destroy him in very, very many ways if not set him on course to becoming one of the bipolar suicide statistics.
If you must insist on being on the computer.. my suggestion would be to look up some of the great sites that have been put together and specifically designed for parents of children with mental health concerns.
Wont get any pity from me either. Your son, however, has my best wishes.
I feel for you. If you are sure that he is taking his meds then it sounds like he needs his medications changed. Definitely do something different because this isn't working. Perhaps he has the wrong diagnosis. It sounds like you're so miserable you'd try anything. Have you ever tried an elimination diet? You'd need his cooperation but he may be miserable enough to try anything too. It won't cost you anything. Google Elimination diet. God bless you all.
It seems to me that you are overwhelmed by the whole situation. You dont say how old you are. I would guess you are a very young mother and the stress on you is more than you can bear. You need to take your 13 year old to a doctor and get him on the right mix of bipolar meds IMMEDIATELY. Once he is on the right meds, most of his anger and unwarranted behavior will cease thus making a more amicable environment for all concerned. Dont give up on him yet. Once a week family counseling is a good start but I seriously doubt the meds he is getting for his conditions are doing any good.
Inquire about the meds and perhaps change them or tweak them. The present meds are NOT working at all.
Good luck to you. You are a good mother because you are seeking help and I know you dont mean that when you say you want to place him in foster care. If you did, you would have already done it. Take a deep breadth and go from there.
Good luck and may God be with you.
He wouldn't have symptoms if you'd get off your lazy derriere and get him the treatment he deserves. If a medication isn't helping, you try another medication, brilliant.
You need to ask your Docter fist about these
There are meds that you may have not tryed omega 3 they have to be the ones high in DHA and low EPA 500mg morning and night with food they can be hard to find but they are there if you look all so there are flavored ones too they are nice to eat'
All so some thing you may not have tryed you need a under standing docter is Beta blockers but only a very small amount and need to watch his blood presser dose not get too low that is why only a very small amount
This is using the beta blocker for a off label use and just mite help where every thing elase has failed with omega 3 high in DHA
The other thing is food what is he eating ?
How much calcium and magnesium a day is he eating he may all so need a magnesium supplement again morning and night with food
You will need a understanding Docter to talk to about all this it just mite help